1.30.2006

outside beauty

i can't believe the sun today. i headed downtown on rt. 83, and the fog was so present that i couldn't see the traffic lights until i was practically on top of them. as the day progressed, the fog rose and the sun was brilliant across the harbor. when i went outside to go run, there was still a hint of haze clinging to the water and the local city air. it made a rather unpleasant workout semi-bearable. i warmed up by running over to rash field, and after some good stretching, i did 6 quarters. repeats have always been my bread and butter, but after having been out due to various injuries/illnesses/etc., i was feeling the adverse effects of stressing my body. or maybe that was the bag of carrots that i ate about an hour before running... all told though, it was a very thorough workout, with a cool-down that was a bit longer and included two flights of stairs. my HR was elevated, and my energy returned when i got back to the office. i've been feeling pretty refreshed for the past few hours, so this was a good thing.

on another note, i wish that people wouldn't say anything sometimes, that they would leave some things unsaid. last night, i was talking to one of my closest friends. he happens also to be an ex of several years ago. and that's important. we got onto the topic of S.O.s and where things stand in that department. and for some reason, the conversation nearly always meanders back to what went haywire when we were dating. at that point in my life, i felt that i was only a little more attractive than your average shrub. and here he tells me that he was crazily attracted to me, wanted this, wanted that. and i had noooooooo idea. what ifs that should have stayed in came out. it made me uncomfortable. don't get me wrong--i love this guy like a brother, and, unless he does something really bad, i always will. but why can't stuff just be left alone? tell me that. tell me why he doesn't go on and on about his girl and how attracted he is to her. tell me why he even cares who i'm with and how that's going. but this will blow over quickly, i think. he's too much of a stand-up guy to do anything radically stupid. go him.

actually, it's partly because of him that i had some self-image problems. "katie holmes this," "katie holmes that"--if you're sick of her now, i was nauseated to the nth degree because i had to hear about her every other minute. a guy i wasn't even dating at the time told me i was beautiful; i was so stunned that i almost fell out of my chair. my guy hadn't yet, and we'd been together for about six months. not to put a timeline on stuff, but when you've been with a girl for awhile and supposedly care about her and are attracted to her, you might want to mention something positive about her appearance.

things have drastically changed since then. i truly believe in my own being--in every aspect, good and bad. i know that i can go out with the girls and make some heads turn and jaws drop (yeah, Crease!). i get that at the beach or poolside, i look best in a two piece and have thus marked the VS swim shop as my favorite store EVER. i am very mindful about how i dress and where i am and who is with me; being classy and sexy is vastly different from being slutty. some girls don't get that. and a big change from before is that there is someone who can deal with my heinous sleep hair first thing in the morning or will look at me when i'm dazed and half asleep and still proceed to say that i'm cute or has fun picking me up, marveling at how tiny (is he sure?!) i am.

for the two guys reading, i'm not trying to crucify anybody, nor am i trying to make anybody self-conscious or weirded out. i'm not mad or upset. i love the people in my life. but histories are complicated, whether they're complete or in the making. and what i'm trying to make of all this is an accurate remembrance of how i've grown and changed in recent years and who has surrounded me in that time. this is my way of saying things that i can't say in person.

and i have a lot to say...

1.28.2006

running with toby

it was beautiful outside today, and toby and i went to do our figure-8 loop in wyman park. we were out for twenty minutes in the twilight, not counting the minutes he spent smelling other dogs' butts. it felt good to get back outside; i haven't been doing it for a little while because my L knee has been bitching and screaming because it's really tight. but anyway. i'm starting on my training routine this coming tuesday. i'm going to begin easy, with 6x400m at only 70% or so. don't let me go crazy-fast! i can go hard, but it wouldn't be smart of me at this point. then wednesday will be slow, easy, and thursday will be a few easy hills. i say easy, meaning hard-as-shit federal hill hills. but i'll take it slow, warm up a lot and not do a whole bunch. so we'll see how this first week goes. i want to be back in shape for the Shamrock 5K, and i'm still thinking about the B&A Trail Half Marathon. woo! i know that one won't be hard, since a)i've run that trail before, and it's very relaxed, and b)i did a whole freakin marathon, so i shouldn't have to bust my butt too hard in order to finish.

it's official. i love running. ergo, i'm insane. but we already knew that. :)

1.27.2006

if i've ever lusted after anything before...


i first posted this picture when i started my blog this past summer. i still want this car. it's beautiful. now here comes the dilemma. we're not even talking affordability right now because this is still a little out of my reach. but anyway. i have a slight issue--i would **love** a G6 in electric blue. blue. i love blue. can you tell? but... ELECTRIC blue is only available on the GT model. the 6 cylinder model comes in red, silver, beige, black, green and ivory, i think. boring. at least to me. i love blue. BUT, the GT doesn't have as good gas mileage. not even considering my wallet, i really feel that i should be responsible to the environment by showing good stewardship of available fuels. so color really isn't that important.

then on top of that, should i consider a hybrid? i truly love pontiacs, especially my grand am and the G6s. thing is though, i drive up to PA and down to the DC quite often, and i put at least 15K miles on my cars every year. GM and other domestic companies don't seem to have fully embraced hybrid technology, and i really wish they would; i'm more inclined to buy domestic because i consider it to be a smidge cheaper, maintenance-wise. are there any car-heads out there who can give me any feedback? i'd really appreciate it...






oh, and the solstice is hot. but i can't tote toby in it because he'd jump out the side. too bad.

chris toll

unfortunately i can't think of any other phrase, so please forgive the usage...

i have to *give props* to chris toll. he's a coworker of mine, but more importantly, he's a poet. he shared his work with me this morning, and this one is my favorite:

"tears made flesh"--http://www.rockheals.com/archives/2006/01/tears_made_fles.html

articles and prepositions aside, every word is culled from spam. use the back button to find two other poems. enjoy!

1.26.2006

apparently, some MBAs need to re-take Business 101...

even if you're not obsessed with the stock market, you are obsessed with your wallet. don't deny it. and don't be ashamed; we're all consumed by that little fold of pleather in our purses/pockets, no matter how otherwise transcendent we say we are. i've learned that this tiny little fascination is okay, since, truthfully, neglect of finances is just as bad as tearing one's hair out over them. but i digress.

i've been on a kick to get financially fit lately, and in one of my first forays into business/money publications, i found a great source of relief. ignorant as i am of particular money terms, trends and take-downs, i am most CERTAINLY....

NOT AS DUMB AS THESE PEOPLE: http://money.cnn.com/magazines/business2/101dumbest/full_list/

please let me enjoy my little moment of superiority. thx.

1.24.2006

according to scientific research, today sucks.

NEW RESEARCH PROCLAIMS JANUARY 24TH AS THE MOST DEPRESSING DAY OF THE YEAR

Dateline: January 17, 2006 ... New York, NYContact Name: Lori Ames, Jane Wesman Public Relations, Inc.Contact Phone: 212-620-4080 x12E-mail: lori@wesmanpr.com

Dr. Kathleen Hall, Founder and President of The Stress Institute, and author of "A Life In Balance", is available to help readers avoid the January 24th blues.

NEW YORK, NY - January 17, 2006 - Using a variety of emotional and stress factors, recent research published in "Health" magazine proclaims January 24th to be the most depressing day of the year. People feel as if there is a shadow over them; with low light levels creating Seasonal Affective Disorder, holiday bills hitting the mailbox, and New Year's resolutions already broken, depression is rampant. While post holiday blues are common, stress expert Dr. Kathleen Hall, author of the new book "A Life In Balance", says there are many steps people can take to create happiness in their dreary lives during the darkest and coldest days of the year.

"People experienced sensory overload during the holidays: the lights, the smells of pine and peppermint, sounds of music, the aromas, sight and taste of foods, and the touch and connection with others. By January, they are now experiencing a flat, hollow, sad feeling," says Hall.

Dr. Hall offers these tips to create happiness and energy:
1. Food: Try new foods that haven't been eaten before. Get the family to choose a cuisine and everyone can cook it together. Try mango salad or black bean lasagna.
2. Color: Add color. Purchase an inexpensive tablecloth with happy bright colors, maybe orange or yellow. Keep bright flowers on the kitchen table. Find some inexpensive bright colored pillows to throw on the couch. Accessorize with a bright scarf or shoes.
3. Have Fun: Schedule one or two nights a week to turn off the television and have game night. Play board games, cards, or watch a funny movie (research shows this will get the endorphins going).
4. Introspection Time: Have each family member choose a word to describe 2005 and what their word is for the coming year, 2006, and explain why he or she chose each word.
5. Time Alone: Each family member takes ten minutes, Monday, Wednesday and Friday (pick any three days of the week) to take a bath, read, paint, or take a nap to help recharge in these draining times.

borrowed from the washington post; article from the blog can be found at: http://blog.washingtonpost.com/rawfisher/

1.23.2006

politiks

most of my friends and family know that i have a certain distaste for certain politicians and parties. and yet, i am *trying* to be fair when it comes to choosing who will get my vote in the 2006 Maryland gubernatorial election. i've perused duncan, o'malley and ehrlich's websites, and i want to throw out some impressions and conclusions...

regarding points raised on doug duncan's campaign website--i'm curious as to the tone of the following two quotes that relate to education:

"Montgomery's school system is the largest and most diverse in the State, with more than 120 different languages spoken and a student body that is 55 percent minority. Yet, Montgomery students posted the highest SAT scores in Maryland."

Again, "With the most diverse school population in Maryland, Montgomery County students have produced the best SAT scores in the history of Maryland. "

i don't dispute the diversity of Montgomery County, but i do question the connotation of the word's usage in these quotes. is it expected that a diverse population will collectively perform poorly in comparison to a more homogenous one? essentially, i'm not sure what the article's author(s) intends(intend) to imply.

one of duncan's efforts that i do appreciate is that of alleviating healthcare stress among minorities. see the following quote:

"To help eliminate health disparities among minority residents, Doug has supported community-based health initiatives focused on African American, Latino, and Asian American residents. The county partners with community-based health promoters to provide health education and outreach to specific minority communities, and funds faith-based health clinics that serve thousands of at-risk families. "

as one who is hit by medical costs, i can understand what it means to have to choose between medication and rent.

i appreciate the fact that duncan has taken the pains to preserve maryland's farmland. i've seen my hometown, Lebanon, PA, transform from beautifully plowed, rolling fields to boxy, misplaced suburban developments. it makes me want to throw up. so somebody needs to keep a hold on the last few open spaces that we have available to us. and not the least of his accomplishments: "Thanks to his landmark land preservation efforts, Montgomery County ... is Maryland's leading pumpkin producer." now that's just awesome.

next i turn to martin o'malley, baltimore's current mayor. trying to fend off my boyfriend's volleys of disparaging remarks about baltimore, i tell him about how much improvement the city has seen in the past two decades. indeed, o'malley's term has seen baltimore breathing again. it is possible for cities to make giant turnarounds (e.g., NYC). i do, however, have some issues with the current state of my city. see the following:

"Martin O’Malley shattered Baltimore’s string of 10+ years of more than 300 homicides, cutting homicides by an average of 18%. During his term as Mayor, the city recorded its fewest homicides since 1988."

on the one hand, reduction of any sort is great. but, it stands that, as of data* referring to 2003 and 2002 respectively, maryland is the second worst state in the U.S. for murder, and baltimore is the 3rd worst largest city in the U.S. for murder, with a rate of 38.3 homicides per 100,000 people. we have the ignominious distinction of having "beaten" chicago, philadelphia and even los angeles. lovely.

o'malley is not without positives, however. after 9/11, he invested nearly 6x the amount provided by the federal government toward baltimore's defense in the event of a terror attack. also, he recognizes the importance of nurturing a city-wide renaissance:

"Martin O’Malley’s leadership in revitalizing Baltimore’s neighborhoods, promoting parks and bike paths while creating new, vibrant live-work-play communities have stemmed Baltimore’s population loss and made the city a model for large-scale Smart Growth."

as a girl who seriously hates the suburbs, the exurbs and gentrification, i applaud the wave of revitalization that is giving breath to some of the quirkiest (read "hampden") neighborhoods in the city.

last, but (to be fair) not least--bob ehrlich. i like that he's all about fiscal responsibility. this probably isn't the strongest analogy, but i know that from my personal finances, i can't be productive when trying to operate while in major debt. ehrlich has made moves to transform "$4 billion in deficits into a $1.7 billion surplus in just three years." cha-ching! according to his campaign website, he has also "reduced government bureaucracy by seven percent. " that usually sounds good. but...

what i do have to question about ehrlich is the vagueness of the material on his website. in contrast to the information provided on his opponents' sites, there is only one page to address several issues, and the points that are addressed provide nothing to which the numbers given can be compared. for instance, referring to the bureaucracy issue above, let's just say that we're going to use dollars instead of an intangible term (that's the first problem). we have to recognize that 7% of $1000 is far greater than 7% of $10. so by how much did ehrlich really reduce bureaucracy? i want to question the completeness of the information provided by the website, as at least four bullet points have ambiguous figures and at least nine lack necessary background information.

all told, i've evaluated the candidates' stances for myself, and i still have some thinking to do. i'm not going to tell you who's in and who's out so far because, frankly, that's none of your beeswax. but if you're a maryland resident, check out the websites for yourself and get to the polls. see you in november!

*this information comes from "Death by Murder," by ben best (http://www.benbest.com/lifeext/murder.html#usa).

>These quotes are taken from Doug Duncan, Martin O'Malley and Robert Ehrlich's campaign websites: http://www.dougduncan.com, http://www.martinomalley.com/, and http://www.bobehrlich.com/. I am not using the quotes for endorsement purposes, but rather to pose questions and provoke thoughtful discussion.

1.20.2006

*Not Myself*--John Mayer

Suppose I said
I am on my best behavior
There are times
I lose my worried mind

Would you want me when I'm not myself?
Wait it out while I am someone else?

Suppose I said
Colors change for no good reason
Words will go
From poetry to prose

Would you want me when I'm not myself?
Wait it out while I am someone else?

And I, in time, will come around
I always do for you

Suppose I said
You're my saving grace?

Would you want me when I'm not myself?
Wait it out while I am someone else?

Would you want me when I'm not myself?
Wait it out while I am someone else?

1.10.2006

short

so grandpa's in the ICU. it was massively unsettling when i was going through his photography yesterday. it felt something that's done after, you know? i think it falls to me to archive all of our family work, regardless of what happens to gpa. something tells me that i should think of that as an honor or a special task or something.

i'm so confused right now. gpa and i weren't super-close when i was growing up, but as i've grown older, i've learned a lot more about him, and we seemed to develop a good repoire. it's not the overly gushy type. rather, it's the exchange. gpa and gma give my family a sense of history. in fact, gpa was constantly working on some way to preserve the tons of family photographs, and we have some that go back to the 1890s. when he was able, he would categorize, label, scan, etc., etc. and now who's going to do that? i don't know who these people are. so what does that do with those empty spaces that need names? how do i fill in my family history? what happens now?

1.08.2006

new year's pix!!! (part A)


me, kate, christine, & steph: ladies, roll!


ask kate about the random flashing in fells. ;)











the dungeon at john's place. he keeps bad students down there.
























cory & charmain (sp?-sorry guys!!!)














leah & sabrina, friends of c & ch. very cool girls!













court & lucy













there was much foosballin. sadly, chris and i got DESTROYED (not shown here)...















W!



















shake ya groove thang, shake ya groove thang
















crowd on the porch before the midnight fireworks (below)


























happy new year! :)

1.05.2006

why do gorillas have big nostrils?

because they have big fingers.

1.04.2006

happy 2006!

happy new year, everybody! woo! any big, overwhelming resolutions? any teeny, but still worth-their-salt ones? i'd like to say that i have some, but i don't. i'm having a remarkably frustrating time focusing on anything. but whatever.

and NOW is the time for the sweeping generalizations about the year come and gone that was 2005:

1. it blew. really. i couldn't believe how much natural disaster showed its face. as i go through each year, i feel as if the earth wants more and more to shake us out of her skirts.
2. BUT, despite FEMA-made disasters, we worked hard for each other. baltimore's running community really looked into itself--we get so many race shirts that we don't wear, so we sent them to those who lost everything. loyola of MD and other universities took displaced students. while there wasn't 100% success in helping those who needed help, there was some. that gives us some hope, right?
3. **IRONY COMING**--> marking time is kind of silly. i got a master's degree, moved (again), re-upped with the worst place of business in the world, met somebody, unmet that person, met somebody else, welcomed a niece into the family, quit that place of BS, became gainfully (and happily) employed at a nice new place of business, am still meeting that somebody else and enjoying it quite a lot, and am providing indirect care to a family (my family) that' s in the midst of a huge transition. that's a lot of shit. and other years have been quieter. so what does a "year" mean? dare i beg Rent's biggest question???
4. the movies were horrible, in that i didn't have enough time or $$$ to see them. and there are so many that i've wanted to see. i think i only went to two this whole year--kingdom of heaven (ding!) and batman begins (ding!, for a different reason). i still want to see Walk the Line, Narnia, and Syriana.

woops, bbl...