"sometimes, you need a hug, sometimes you need a smile.
sometimes just having someone makes it worthwhile."
--Kristen
"sometimes, people are assholes."
--Steve
somewhat recently, i've bumped into an old friend from high school. this is a person who shows nothing but kindness and compassion to the people around him. he's the kind of person who would give anybody a shoulder to cry on, and he'll buy some taco bell for dinner to boot. he'll call at random just to make sure things are okay. see quote #1.
and right now, i'm seeing him get his heart stomped on. raked over the coals. put on a spit and slow-roasted over low-burning fire. you get the picture. because someone didn't get her way this once, she's threatening this and that and all these other things, and he's paying quite the emotional penalty. see quote #2.
this pisses me off. i hate to see that happen to such a nice person. women wonder where all the nice guys are, and i'll tell you. they're in the foxholes avoiding the salvos of mean girls. what gets to me on my side of the situation is that i can't do a damn thing about it. i don't meddle or spout platitudes or mouth off about her to him. that's seriously not my place and none of my business. that would be a major don't. the only thing i have done is just be there for moral support. the only thing i've said is that he is the good person that he's not sure that he is. this whole situation sucks.
see quote #2.
|:(
1 comment:
I think that's the corollary to what I call SGS - Scuzzy Guy Syndrome. SGS probably has four or five diagnostic categories, but it generally covers all cases of when otherwise nice women repeatedly seek out bad men - be it SGS 1 or 2 (arrogant, obnoxious, demeaning, demanding, loser), SGS 3 or 4 (total loser, cheating, stealing, emotionally unavailable) or SGS 5 (stalker, abusive, sociopath/psychopath).
I have little way of explaining this behavior pattern in general cases, but I think it's well-established in practice.
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